Of course you could. The only problem you would run into with dating a cheater is what your friends and family may think of your decision.
Everybody has this preconceived notion that says you will only be happy in a relationship that ends in a monogamous marriage. We all have been fed this erroneous information since childhood.
We search high and low for someone whom we believe to have been sent here from the gods especially for us. Someone who knows our individual likes, dislikes, desires and such. Someone who lifts our spirits and fills our hearts with much delight. We want our one true soul mate.
As a result, we are obsessed with finding all the required qualities that we think should be found in that person and if he/she is lacking in even any one of them, then it means that he/she is unworthy for us. This is ultimately the undoing that leads to nowhere as there is no person in existence who is completely perfect and all have their share of flaws and virtues. They are more grey shaded, which is good as it makes them more human and not gods, the kinds that you look up to on the okcupid dating app, to search for the so called soul mate of your dreams.
How many times have we met someone, fell in love, only to find out that he or she had another lover on the side? Up and until this point we would have described our lives as happy. We could even go on and say that if the affair would end we could go on with our lives and be happy once again.
Why is it that we are so willing to forgive a cheating spouse over and over again with the promise that they will end the extra relationship? Why are we not willing to look past something that occurs usually without affecting our relationships, as affairs usually do not affect a relationship until its discovery?
What I am saying is this. If up and until the discovery of our mates extra curricular activities, everything was pure bliss, then chances are things will remain as such if we followed our hearts and not do what our friends and family would find acceptable.
The love between the two of you will not change because of this. What changes this love is the thoughts of what will others think of me in this situation. Will I be judged for my actions if I were to stay in this relationship because my actions oppose those of society?
There are times, although, when a cheating relationship must end. If you are totally being disrespected, you should then leave. By disrespected I mean that this extra relationship is constantly being exhibited to you with missed dates, unknown underwear, used condoms and STD’s. The fact that there is another player in the game does not necessarily mean that anyone is being disrespected. Only society would have you believe such nonsense.
Many monogamous relationships are not happy relationships. We should be focusing on the overall happiness of those involved. If a relationship seems to be functioning otherwise well with extra people involved, then why ruin it with constant bickering over the “why’s” of cheating?
It is hard to find happiness. Knowing this, why do we constantly let others decide for us what determines happiness? As long as safety and respect for all involved are always exercised, then, of course, you could date a cheater.